At 42, I got my ADHD diagnosis. At 46, during autistic burnout, I learned I was autistic. By then, I’d spent decades as a classic overachiever—managing multiple projects, tracking 200+ tasks weekly, running a home, maintaining relationships. Until I hit the burnout wall and suddenly couldn’t manage to shower regularly.
Nothing worked anymore. And I didn’t know why.
Nobody told me that 15 years of therapy working through codependency, step-parenting challenges, generalized anxiety disorder, severe depression, and cPTSD, was partly about learning to exist in a world not built for my brain.
Nobody told me that parenting five neurodiverse kids would become a masterclass in understanding different processing styles—one that no professional development program could match.
Nobody told me that my obsessive consumption of books and podcasts about mental health, neurodiversity, productivity, and personal knowledge management wasn’t just “being interested”—it was survival. It was me trying to reverse-engineer the manual nobody gave me.
Nobody told me that all my ‘coping strategies’ were actually just undiagnosed neurodivergence doing its best.
This community is for you if you’ve ever:
suspected you might be neurodivergent but worried you’re just making excuses...
felt like an imposter in your own life—like you’re just really good at faking ‘normal’...
needed three business days to recover from a casual hangout...
grieved for the version of yourself who spent years thinking you were just ‘bad at being human’...
thought ‘I shouldn’t need this much help just to function normally’...
thought you’re ‘too much’ for people, or somehow simultaneously ‘not enough’...
What you’ll find here:
Twice-weekly posts (Tuesdays & Thursdays) diving into Neurodiversity, Mental Health, Personal Growth, Communication & Connection, and Purpose & Meaning. Content that respects different processing styles. Validation without coddling. Research-backed information without academic gatekeeping. Real talk about the messy middle.
No toxic positivity. No “just try harder.” No pretending this is easy.
This isn’t expert advice. I’m not a therapist or expert. I’m someone who’s done the research, paid for the therapy, and built systems that work for my brain - and maybe yours too. This newsletter is me sharing what’s working (and what isn’t) so you don’t have to figure it all out alone.
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